Tuesday, May 24, 2011

NOW will you listen to me? (Oprah on the way out)

This will probably be my least popular post of all time.

But I suggest you read every word.

For the last 2 generations, Oprah Winfrey has been consistently ruining relationships.

She's been confusing men and women about each other.

She's dramatically increased the divide between men and women.

She's driven women to feel terrible about the men in their lives.

She has never been a supporter of marriage or the sacred bonds between men and women.

Now just why would that be?

Look at her own relationship history.

She clearly has nothing to teach about relationships or marriage.

Nor for that matter about dieting, self-maintenance, friendships, or any of the other things that really count.

You might say, well, she doesn't necessarily come up with these things on her own, she has guests.

Believe me, those guests are not chosen by accident.

They are chosen because they represent a certain philosophy of life.

That philosophy can be summed up like this:

"Be a victim.  Make other people suffer.  Profit from your position as a victim."

Now if you're ready to settle down in your marriage and make some real changes, not some "Oprah" changes, go here

- Dr. Max

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Tuesday, May 17, 2011

Could Facebook Ruin Your Marriage?

Affirming your marriage or negating your marriage? - marriage advice

"It's the repetition of affirmations that leads to the belief.  And once the belief becomes a deep conviction, things begin to happen."

Claude M. Bristol (1891 - 1951) American author of "The Magic of Believing.

The opposite can happen too.

The repetition of negations or negative statements can create just as deep a belief and conviction.

Mentally keep track of the numbers of times per day you think neutral or negative things about your spouse.

"She doesn't really love me"  "He's very inconsiderate"

versus

"He really does everything he can for me and the family, he's a champ" or "What a loving person she is"

Count them and you'll see how it turns out.

If you are unhappy there are a lot more of the negations than the affirmations.

If you are happy then there are a lot more of the affirmations than the negations.

It's a mathematical certainty.

Get it?

Think it isn't as simple as I make it out to be? 

It is that simple, if you make a couple changes

Here's how to make a change and turn it around

Dr. Max

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Saturday, May 14, 2011

Tired or bored of being married?

Very few people will admit it, even to themselves.
So just between you and me, are you?
Are you tired or bored of being married?
Are you just politely "putting up with it" because it's the right thing to do?
Maybe the most convenient thing to do.
So let me say right away... there's nothing wrong with that.
Is there?
It's really your call.
It depends on whether you believe for... or hope for... something much better.
Your marriage relationship CAN be a lot better, you know.
You might not believe it, but it's true.
Thousands now have great marriages who never thought they could.
How?
They changed the way they think.
They changed the way they felt.
They changed the way they acted.
So it's up to you.
Same old humdrum... or something new.
- Dr. Max

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Friday, May 13, 2011

Weekend Sex Tip 5.13.11 (Top Secret - Men Only)

OK guys you're going to doubt me on this one, but "hear me now, believe me later."

I'm going to give you the ultimate sex secret of all time.

It doesn't come from a psychologist.

It doesn't come from Dr. Phil or Oprah.

It doesn't come from Dr. Ruth.

It doesn't even come from some porn star.

No.

It comes from Billy Joel

Listen.  If you really want to "get her hot" here's what you do.

Get a copy of Billy Joel's song "Tell Her About It."

Then do everything he tells you to do in the song.

I'm serious.

Tell her about it 
Tell her everything you feel 
Give her every reason to accept 
That you're for real 

The guy is a lady monster even though he looks like a toad (sorry Billy).

Need proof?  He was married to Christie Brinkley.

Got divorced?  Well I assume he stopped listening to his own advice.

This is the hottest, easiest and simplest tip I have for you guys.

Your wives will totally agree with me on this one.

And here's the rest of the story.

Enjoy your weekend,

Dr. Max

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Thursday, May 12, 2011

What have you done for me lately? (Marriage Advice)

Janet Jackson sings:

I never ask for more than I deserve

You know it's the truth

You seem to think you're God's gift to this earth

I'm tellin' you... no way.

You ought to be thankful for the little things

But little things are all you seem to give

You're always puttin' off what we could do today

Soap opera says you've got one life to live

Who's right who's wrong?

ohhhh, what have you done for me lately?

Good question... 

But it needs to be turned around!

What you should be asking is...

What have I done for YOU lately?

Here's something you can do that will really make a difference

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Wednesday, May 11, 2011

Marriage problems related to infants’ sleep difficulties

Couples having marital difficulties may have infants who are losing sleep, according to a new study - and that may have a continuing impact on the children.

Specifically, researchers found that marital instability when the child was ninth months old was related to child sleep problems at 18 months, including difficulties falling asleep and staying asleep, according to Anne Mannering, an Oregon State University faculty member in the Department of Human Development and Family Sciences. read

You have to be able to deal with problems as they come up.  The only way to do that is to have good communication.

Here's where you develop good communication skills

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-- Dr. Max

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Aimless marriage vs. goals marriage

.“The soul that has no established aim loses itself.
Michel Eyquem De Montaigne (1533-1592, French philosopher, essayist)

In marriage, just like in any other human endeavor, it's important to have goals.

Most people drift aimlessly through life and aimlessly through their marriage.

What are your goals in your marriage?

I don't mean your wishes as in "I wish my husband would take me dancing"

I mean your goals.

Specifics that you are going to work toward, to achieve, to have a happy marriage.

If you have no idea what I'm talking about, watch this free presentation:

Dr. Max

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Tuesday, May 10, 2011

Is this the answer to extramarital affairs?

Two Indonesian couples caned for extramarital affairs in Muslim ...


ACEH, INDONESIA (BNO NEWS) -- Two Indonesian couples on Friday were publicly caned for having had extra marital affairs in a conservative Muslim province in Aceh, the Jakarta Globe reported. Two men and two women were accused of sex ...


Publish Date: 04/08/2011 14:48


http://wireupdate.com/wires/16526/two-indonesian-couples-caned-for-extramarital-affairs-in-muslim-province/


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There's a better solution

Dr. Max


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Don't argue

One of the biggest mistakes people make in their marriages is arguing.

It never turns out well.

Think back on every argument you ever had and then think about the result.

Was it ever positive?

Did you ever feel good afterwards (really... not just in the vengeful way).

If you want to try a new way, the answers are here:

- Dr. Max

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Monday, May 2, 2011

7 Ways To Fuel Your Hatred for Your Husband (Cheat Sheet)

These are the top seven ways to fuel your hatred for men, and for your husband in particular.  If you're looking for a really good, quick and effective method to achieve this goal, you've come to the right place.

All of these methods will help to fuel your hatred or at least your ability to dismiss men.  Use them all at one time if you want to be especially effective.

1. Talk to your man-hating friends about your husband.  This is the most effective and fastest way to fuel your hatred for your husband - and for all men while you're at it.  The great thing about this one is that you get lots of quick and very specific information about how useless, mean and ridiculous men really are.  Your man-hating friends will give you lots of examples that you can immediately apply to men you know, and specifically to your husband. 

2. Watch network television and see how men are portrayed.  Men are universally portrayed in the media as incompetent, childish, bungling, shallow, insensitive and aggressive.  If you want a real primer on how to hate men, you don't need to go any farther than watching the Dr. Phil show where the Champ of Men Haters will always go after the man in a relationship for his failings.

3. Read women's magazines and support your views that men are shallow, only want sex and that they are easily tricked into doing anything you want them to do.  When you try those "Never Fail Bedroom Tricks That Drive Men Wild Every Time," and your husband doesn't respond exactly how the magazine describes they will, you've got foolproof information that your husband is impossible, since the magazine clearly demonstrates that real men will respond to these methods every time.

4. Believe the myth that men are bad at relationships.  This one is great because no one can dispel it.  All you have to do is point out the ways that your husband forgets little things that are so important to you and clearly doesn't really care for you or think about you.  You can gather data to support the conclusion that men are bad at relationships day in and day out.  This really helps your cause of fueling your hatred for your husband.

5. Focus on every little thing he does wrong with the kids, with you.  Part of this is demonstrating to your own satisfaction that he's bad at relationships, but you can go much farther with this if you use a little creativity. Surely there are all kinds of ways you can point out that he over-punishes the children, doesn't understand them, says inappropriate things with them, with you, with your family and with your friends.  You can make a huge list of the things he said he was going to do but never got around to.

6. Confuse him with contradictory requests for strength and sensitivity and then make a conclusion that he's confused.  On the one hand you definitely want him to be a strong man.  On the other, you definitely want him to be sensitive. It's very important never to give him enough information to act on either one of those parts of his character.  

For example, when you're feeling like you just want to be held, make sure you never tell him that, so you can conclude that if he really loved you, he would know that.  Then you can sit there and fume at him for being an insensitive brute.

Or let's say that some guy cuts in front of you in line while you and your husband are at the grocery store and he doesn't confront the guy (and neither do you).  Then you can think "what a wimp my husband is" and quietly conclude he's not doing his job as a man.

Above all, always make sure never to give him enough information so he can't know what you are wanting from him.  You can always know inside that if he really loved you, he would already know, and because you're sure that at some time you told him what you wanted, now he's just being a stubborn man who never listens.  This kills two birds with one stone.

7.  Prove to yourself that men are "children" by finding ways he is not as responsible as he should be, and that instead of meeting his obligations he's always looking for ways to go play instead.  I'm sure you can find a lot of examples of that.  

And fortunately this move kills many birds with one stone, because at the same time you're concluding (and talking to your man-hating friends who are also concluding) that men are just children and only want to go play and never meet their responsibilities, you can at the same time point out that he never wants to go dancing, hang out romantically with you or do any other fun thing, because he's truly just turned into a stick in the mud.

It is my professional opinion that if you will practice at least one of these seven activities per day (preferably more) you will definitely throw fuel on the fire of your hatred for men, specifically for your husband.

- Dr. Max
(c) Dr. Max Vogt

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