Divorce busting

“I guess it’s time we parted our ways”, “We were never made for each other”, “I can’t imagine living with you anymore”… Ever heard or said such things to your life partner? If you’ve ever said it, think again. These harsh words can do more harm to your already not-so-good relationship. You can talk to your life partner/husband/wife about it, and you should.

Bring back in your mind those sweet old memories – those moments that felt so heavenly, and it was all true. Thinking about a divorce means you’re going the wrong way. You’ll become all alone again, and those good old times that you spent together will haunt you, and you may feel like going back into the relationship… But, it could even be late.

Why let such things happen in your life? 

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- Dr. Max

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Acupuncture for erectile dysfunction

Acupuncture has been used since thousands of years to cure a lot of diseases in the body. Acupuncture is more famous for elevating pain from the joints in the body. In acupuncture, needles are inserted at important points in the body. The needles are kept inserted in the body points for 

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How to recover from Infidelity

There are 2 things to do.

1.  Visit my site http://www.ThriveAfterTheAffair.com for some great information.

2.  Go to this blog for further conversations:  http://www.marriagecounselingcafe.com/2011/09/20/your-questions-about-recovery-from-infidelity-2/

Best Wishes,

Dr. Max

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How Do We Stop Arguing?

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My spouse and I love each other but sometimes I can’t even stand him. He argues with me and sometimes he doesn’t have common sense. I will admit that I am at fault too but I try not to make mistakes. I resent him and I ignore him for many hours and he comes back to me and hugs me and everything and says he loves me but it’s not good enough. Our issues that we need to work on together as a couple remain unresolved. I even tell him that I resent him sometimes but he doesn’t do anything about it. How do we stop arguing at each other? What kind of techniques do I do?
I know you will say go to marriage counseling but we can’t afford it, just want to hear your opinions. Constructive advice only please! Thanks!
we argue about many things, too many to list on here. It is too exhausting and I’m tired.
Most of the time we argue over his actions, instead of him. For example, he doesn’t listen to me when I’m talking to him, that’s just one of the many reasons.
When we are arguing in front of our child, I stop and say “We’ll talk about this later.” and he said “Well I don’t want to talk to you right now”. I know it’s unhealthy fighting in front of kids, that’s why I wait till our kid is in another room, so I could go talk to my spouse and spouse will say some smart alleck comment saying “Well I don’t want to resolve anything with you.” This makes me mad!
Thank you for all of your opinions. I will take that into consideration, but I need more opinions!

- Dr. Max

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A long marriage is two people trying to dance a duet and two solos at the same time

A long marriage is two people trying to dance a duet and two solos at the same time

Taylor Fleming

Yeah, :-) Well what this means - even though the metaphor is not quite right I agree - is that it's a challenge to be yourself and be partners. What we tend to do is either tend to total separateness or total fusion (the culture's ideal). True intimacy though is being able to balance between connection and separateness, and have both. It can sometimes be a clumsy dance, but when you get it right, it's totally amazing, and you'll have a complete sense of being "home" with your partner - Dr. Max

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What counts in making a happy marriage is...

What counts in making a happy marriage is not so much how compatible you are, but how you deal with incompatibility. - Leo Tolstoy

The core of true intimacy is being able to tolerate the anxiety of being yourself in the presence of another person... without backing off, without pretending, without trying to imitate or be the person your partner WANTS you to be. When you break past that barrier, a brand new kind of marriage is possible for you. - Dr. Max

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Consider how hard it is to change yourself and you'll understand what little chance you have in trying to change others.

Consider how hard it is to change yourself and you'll understand what little chance you have in trying to change others.
Benjamin Franklin

Whether we actually change or not is not up to us to say - at least where relationships are involved. It's up to the person with whom we are connecting to say. The meaning and value of the message is in how it is received. I think what Mr. Franklin is saying is to give up on changing others and let them be themselves. - Dr. Max

Interestingly it is possible to change self and change others at the same time.   Want to know how?   click here

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Anger repressed can poison a relationship as surely as the cruelest words

Anger repressed can poison a relationship as surely as the cruelest words
Dr Joyce Brothers

It's a good quote, but it can be misunderstood easily. Anger expressed - when it is defensive or aimed at the other person and not owned as part of one's own process - is even more dangerous and harmful. The key is to own the feelings and express them with care and thoughtfulness... A tall order, but it's how intimacy is done - Dr. Max

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Are there any places online that you can do online marriage counseling for a reasonable/small price?

First an answer from Yahoo, and then mine:

This is a valid question and one many family counselors are wrestling with. The quick answer is there is too much exposure to malpractice lawsuits. Also, there is too much opportunity for one party to lock onto some particular statement made by the counselor. In face-to-face conversation, the counselor can make a statement and if one party jumps on it and says “See, I’m right and you’re wrong!” the counselor can immediately respond and change the emphasis. If it is in writing, then after the session is over, one party can point to a particular statement and give their own interpretation…which may or may not be the interpretation intended by the counselor. So we’re dealing with a delicate area here. Having said all that, there are some counselors who will do on-line therapy. Another thing to recognize is that coming to this forum you are inviting amateur counseling…of, I might add, varying degrees of comfort and accuracy. Sorry I couldn’t give you something more specific.

Dr. Max adds:  I have some very low cost and super-effective programs which will help you.  Here is the link and my email is also on there if you wish to ask me more about any of the programs Low Cost Marriage Counseling Click Here

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