Save Your Marriage: One sad truth I've found (unconditional love is sick!)

There's one sad truth in life I've found

While journeying east and west -

The only folks we really wound

Are those we love the best.

We flatter those we scarcely know,

We please the fleeting guest,

And deal full many a thoughtless blow

To those who love us best.

Ella Wheeler Wilcox

I cannot even calculate the times I've witnessed this among my clients.

Nor how many times I've heard:

"She's so nice to her friends and so awful to me."

"He's a perfect gentleman with other women and hateful toward me."

Sadly - tragically - we often treat the ones we love worst.

Why does this happen?

Well... with friends we know we are loved conditionally.

They won't put up with endless amounts of crap.

And we want to keep our friends.

So we behave well around them.

Plus we don't see it when they don't put the cap on the toothpaste...

Get sick, get grouchy, have a rotten attitude, let thoughtless words fly...

No, we behave well with our friends,

Because we know they can bail out on us easily.

We think our partners should accept us unconditionally.

Love us "no matter what."

I have news for you.

THAT'S THE WRONG WAY TO BEHAVE IN A MARRIAGE.

You need to be on even BETTER behavior in your marriage than you are with your friends.

You have a sacred duty to not take your partner for granted.

Think I'm being overly dramatic?

I'm not.

Take a look at the vows you professed when you got married.

Did you take such vows with your friends?

IDTS! (I don't think so). Intended to be said with dripping sarcasm :-)

No, you took those vows with your spouse.

Hey YOU get back on track with your marriage.

Confused, concerned, need a little education in how?

You came to the right place. Just smack a big red button here:

Dr. Max

Master Marriage Counselor

Save Your Marriage