James and I were talking yesterday.He said that he loved his wife Trish, but felt that in 21 years of marriage he had never really been who he really is around her.He feels his true self has always remained hidden. Only his old guy friends know who he really is. He said that he always felt that if he expressed what he really thinks and feels she would be shocked.She would dislike him.She would be afraid and upset.The last thing James ever wants to do is get Trish upset. When she's upset she yells and screams and cries and in the end James just buckles and gives her everything she wants anyway.So James has concluded, why bring up anything that will upset Trish?This is why he has always been someone he feels is a "mask," the husband and father Trish prefers him to be. Is this the right way for James to live? Never being himself around Trish, always molding himself the way he thinks she wants him to?What do you think I suggested to James?You have questions, I have answers http://www.CouplesCoach.com- Dr. Max
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