People frequently ask me what the secret to happy long term relationships is.
There's really no one secret, there are many pieces to a happy marriage.
But I can tell you the #1, easiest and best rule:
Don't criticize your partner.
It's not your job to improve your partner.
It's not your job to "make them a better person in your own image."
Your job is to be faithful, loyal and supportive.
But Dr. Max, my husband never tells me he loves me.
But Dr. Max, my husband never talks to me.
Sorry of this sounds a bit harsh, but there's a reason that happens.
It's because you're too critical.
But Dr. Max my wife never initiates sex with me.
But Dr. Max, my wive always nags at me.
Right, there's a reason for all of it.
BUT there's never a reason to criticize, no matter what.
That knife cuts both ways.
Want your partner to stop being critical?
Take the lead.
First, YOU stop being critical.
It's a law of the universe.
What you put out comes back to you.
Take care of your own "bi-ness" first.
That's the #1 piece of advice I can give to you if you want to be happy in your marriage.
Go take the Divorce Test.
It includes pieces of this and you can rate your marriage.
Take care, be grateful for your life.
Dr. Max
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