Save Your Marriage: You can`t change what people are.. without destroying who they were

This series of quotes and comments is brought to you by

Dr. Max Vogt, Master Marriage Counselor and author

"You can`t change what people are.. without destroying who they were."

- the Butterfly Effect

How often it happens that people fall in love with someone enchanted by them...

And then later the same characteristics we fell in love with now piss them off?

I'll tell you how often it happens.

All the time.

Every single relationship.

But here's the difference between short term and long term happiness in relationships.

In short term happiness you just hang around as long as you like the original sauce.

In long term happiness you develop and evolve and learn to love new things.

You see your partner as a developing, dynamic being.

But you also see that they are still who they were and you love them for that.

The old joke is:

Women marry men hoping they will change, and

Men marry women hoping they won't.

In both cases it's a mistake and a bit of an exploitation of your partner.

Here's an idea.

Stop trying to change your partner.

Stop trying to make them who you want them to be.

Give 'em a break.

Look, you only have three choices.

1. Bail out.

2. Stay and be miserable.

3. Stay and be happy

Which will it be?

In any case, whatever you decide, I'll help you.

Dr. Max

Master Marriage Counselor

Save Your Marriage